Pregnancy worries

Had a stomach pain this morning around 7am again plus a leg cramp. I found that most of the cramps happen in the morning, don’t know if it’s relating to the birth time?

Seeing my tummy getting bigger, I’m starting to worry about the financial and the bringing up of my baby as I have no idea or previous experience. For maternity leave, the government paid a maximum of around $325/week for 14 weeks, if I choose to stay with my baby for the first year (which my mum recommends and she said she regretted that she had missed out a lot), I’d have to depend on my partner or find some extra income while working at home. And with the baby, there will be a lot of extra costs, especially if we want the best for our children, who don’t? I am really worried.

Besides the financial, there’s also how to take care of the baby, to bath, things to be aware of, education & making sure its going to be a good person…etc. When I talked to my friend who's baby's almost due last month, she told me lots of worries, and I said to her the child will take care of itself, or if you are religious, 'God will take care of him/her' I was worry free, but this week, I have the same worries!

There was an introduction session last week for a course called babyfirst offered by elementa, I'm glad I attended as it gave me some relieves and confidence that I can do it. The instructor/mentor Maureen was really nice, and she showed us a method of bringing up more independent children. I remember her saying there's no perfect parents, we're all trying our best possible way to raise our children. That really gives me power, as I would want to be a perfect mother in front of my child, to cook nice, healthy food, provide a happy, perfect household, showing them to be a good citizen to the community and always with a smiling kind face. "It's ok to tell your baby you're upset at times, because we're all human and have ups & downs. It's ok to tell the baby that you're upset and you'll go outside to take a breath." What Maureen said really takes a lot of stress away from me.

Also from the bounty pregnancy booklet, it says, ".... you'd think that babies couldn't manage without endless frilly accessories. But babies need their basic needs met - to eat, be kept clean and warm, and to be loved. And that needn't cost a fortune." I can certainly give my baby food (I'm planning to breastfeed, maybe some nursing pads or even expressor), certainly can love my baby with my whole heart + lots more, and sure I can provide a bath and heater! :-)